Ex Box

As I was moving into my new apartment a couple of weeks ago I realized I still have a box full of “ex” things. It included gifts, letters, pictures, and little knickknacks. To be honest, I forgot I had all that stuff. I knew there was a box in the guest closet with these items but I didn’t realize how much stuff I had accumulated. I decided it was time to get rid of it, but I had a hard time doing that. My husband, being the sweet guy he is, didn’t really care if I kept some stuff because we’ve been in a committed marriage. So instead of throwing it all away, I only got rid of some of the things. I kept some of the letters and pictures, but nothing else. It all fits in a tiny shoe box.

I went to the people of Facebook to ask if it was acceptable to have this type of box. To my surprise, most said no! They said it was considered rude and unneccisary because it was the past. I have to disagree. While I think it would be absolutely rude to have a huge box full of things your ex gave you, I don’t think it’s rude or inconsiderate to have something small put away with things of your past relationships. It’s also pretty bad if you still have some of those items on display. I like what a friend of mine said “It’s important to know what you’ve been through and with who”. Some people might say that memories never go away, which is true. The essence of an ex is always in your memory, but the words and images aren’t. When I read some of those letters I remembered why I liked that person and just how special they were to me. It's about my life before my husband and has absolutely no reflection on how much I do or don’t love him. It has nothing to do with him really. And if he had any issue or problem with it, I would get rid of it in a heart beat.

On the flip side, my husband doesn’t have an “ex box” but only because he hasn’t had any ex’s to begin with. He’s had close lady friends and had pictures of them when we first started dating but got rid of them. Mind you, not per my request. It really wouldn’t bother me if he had a box as long as he wasn’t digging through it every week. I have old yearbooks, I have old pictures, I have old letters from family and friends and those aren’t taboo. It only becomes a bad thing when I have these items relating to an ex, which again I don’t agree with. Everyone is different, and it also relates to how your significant other feels about the issue as well. I know that if my hubby had one I wouldn’t make him get rid of it; in fact I’d probably look through it all! Maybe that’s why he got rid of his……

EMM

Heisenberg Morrow

My hubby and I decided in October of last year to take our relationship to the next level. We decided to buy a puppy. It was a fairly rapid decision. We wanted one and we got one the very next day. I firmly believe God led us to Heisenberg. The lady was selling three 1lb yorkipoos. We saw him and knew....that was our puppy. We paid the lady and left. We quickly realized we don't have any food, bowls, pee pads, nothing! It didn't matter because this adorable baby boy was worth it. Let me go into detail about his name. We decided since we have this tiny little creature we wanted a bad ass name for him. We are avid watchers of Breaking Bad on AMC and the main character is a meth cook. His alias is Heisenberg and he is one bad ass dude. Now it suits our puppy very well.

Ever since then he's been the apple of our eye. He really is like our baby. So I thought I'd share with you some of the adorable and funny things he does to brighten our lives.

 

Kisses. He gives us kisses every morning and every night. We can tell he's grateful to have us and we feel the love.

Snuggles. He snuggles with us everyday. I take a nap, he's napping with me. We watch tv on the

couch, he snuggles on my lap. He cuddles and snuggles more than any dog I've known.

The Heisenberg tongue. Ever since he was a baby he always had a longer tongue than his mouth. It sticks out at the perfect times too. It makes him look like a teddy bear and we can't stay mad for long. Please click the link here to watch him at 8 weeks with his long tongue. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L8IrOdnmazE

Kicks. Every time he poops he kicks his hein legs like a bull. It's a survival methods for animals to leave their scent through their paws but seeing a one lb dog do it is hilarious! It got to the point that he couldn't get away with making messes in the house because we could hear him kicking the carpet.

He is such a good puppy. He has his moments but really makes us happy. We can't even imagine our lives without him in it. If you're thinking about getting a dog, think about a yorkipoo. They're hypoallergenic, don't shed, and are adorable little pups.

EMM

Tita

I was helping my husband out with an assignment he had for class in which he was instructed to interview someone 20+ years older. He chose my grandmother, Tita, because of her life experiences, her age, and because she had the time available for the interview. I thought, ok this will be easy, ask a few questions, get some interesting answers and help out the hubby. I did not realize what I was in for. Let me start by saying I talk with my grandma often, sometimes even daily. She is my support system and always knows how to help me calm down or deal with situations. She’s a great listener and I love her dearly. In the past I’ve talked with her about her past. I’ve heard about her struggles, her hard ships and her life in general. But I never think to ask these specific questions. The interview questions ranged from what was your favorite toy as a child, to what was your saddest memory as a child. It wasn’t until this interview that I realized just how special my grandmother is. There are people who have difficult lives, and then there’s my grandmother. No she didn’t get raped every day, or locked up but she had a life full of struggles and loss. Her attitude now is humble, kind and full of love. I can’t even imagine going through what she’s gone through and still have a positive outlook on life. I would have trust issues to no end.

So after the interview I thought I would share with you how much I love her and how important she is to me. She’s an inspiration to me and I only hope one day I can be as graceful as she is. Before I go I have to tell you one of her answers, because it really shows who she is as a person. I asked “What were your favorite memories in high school and college?”-Erika “I didn’t go to high school or college I went to the school of hard knocks!”-Tita. Now I don’t know where she heard this but I do know it sums her up in a nutshell. She’s the baddest mother fucker I know!

EMM