Are Married Men More Attractive?

Thinking back I've never been single as an adult. I reunited with my husband at 19 immediately after a long term relationship and we've been together ever since. Therefore I have no real experience with dating as an adult. I don't know the do's and don'ts and quite honestly I don't care to ever experience having to date again.

What is this leading to? Well, it's leading to the idea that single women are more attracted to married men. Are they? If so, why?  I asked some friends and they all said the same thing "Women who go after married men are skanks!" I was shocked! I mean, I don't disagree but I was trying to get to the real reason of it all. To my friends, the real reason doesn't matter, they're all skanks! I don't like that word, but in general I feel the same way. If any woman ever tried to go after my husband I would beat her ass to the ground after I beat his. To me, name calling wasn't the point. I wanted to know the psychological reasons as to why single women are more attracted to married men. I did some research but nothing official came up. In all fairness I didn't take this to journal searching or articles on the subject just a simple Google search but nothing I read made much sense or explained the reasons. It seemed like all Google could provide was basic information. So until I get enough interest on the subject I guess I will have to leave you with my own thoughts and reasons.

At first I thought it was because as women we want a man who can commit, provide and have the ability to love another person. A married man is a prime example of what women tend to want in a relationship. Married men are clearly able to provide all of those characteristics and then some. I also think that some single women get excited about the fact that it's an affair, it's secret, it's taboo and the thrill of getting caught is the best part. Either way, going after a married man is so inconsiderate and flat out degrading. If you are dating a married man the chances of him leaving his wife, and God forbid children, are slim to none. Should you actually get him to leave his wife or family, shame on you and also what's to stop him from doing it to you? It all goes back to women finding a "great" man and wanting or should I say hoping he will change for her. Being with a married man is nothing but drama, deceit and bad bad bad karma.

Part of me was hesitant to write about this topic. I don't like to judge people because it's their life, they're going to do what makes them happy regardless of what I say. But also because I personally know people who have done exactly this; both personally and in the media. Angelina Jolie went after Brad Pitt and he was married to Jennifer Aniston. Tell me, do we look at the Jolie-Pitt family and still think about Aniston's misery? No, we think they look happy and are finally getting married. But in the beginning, Angelina straight up stole Jennifer's husband. This was an extreme and of course we don't know the details of it all but we can assume that Angelina became Brad's mistress and look at their lives now. As for my personal friends/family, their lives were not ruined but definitely made more difficult. They certainly didn't get the fairy tale ending with a castle in France like Angelina but they learned. I don't judge them, I still love them but I can't say it was easy to over look their misdoings. The older I get the more I realized that everybody makes mistakes and it's important that we understand that. It's what that person who makes the mistake does after they realize what they have done. You can't grow unless you've made mistakes. This is not my way of excusing women who go after married men, but it is a way for me to express that while I don't agree with it doesn't mean those women aren't human either. All I can really say is I won't do it and I hope it never gets done to me.
EMM

Please DON'T You Be My Neighbor

I occasionally watch Jenna Marble's videos because they're hilarious. She made a video where she continuously vented about her neighbor who complained about Jenna and her friends being too loud. It got me thinking about all of the neighbors I've had throughout my life. So I thought I'd tell you a bit about some of my most memorable neighbors.

When I lived in Palm Springs (Cathedral City to be more exact) as a child we had some amazing neighbors. Well they were more like two houses down but they are seriously life long friends. We still catch up on each other's lives, attend important life events, and love each other to death. However, we had another neighbor who had this AMAZING tree on his front lawn. It was huge and every child's dream tree. He never let us climb it. Of course we did anyways, but he was a real dick about it.

While my husband was in the military I lived in one city and he lived in another about 2 hours away. He lived in a barracks room which is basically a hotel room with a kitchen. His neighbor, not his roommate, always had sex at like 3am with some girl and it lasted FOR......EV........ER! We used to call him the horse because he would go on, and on, and on, and on. Lucky bitch.

Once my husband was out of the Navy we finally got to live together, in the same apartment. It's actually the complex we live in now, just a different apartment. Our first neighbor there was an older lady, in her early 60's I would say. One day she came to the apartment at like 3pm to complain about the loud hip hop music I was playing. Thing is, I wasn't playing any hip hop! So after biting my head off, she realized it was my other neighbor and they had an all out war! My other neighbor left a nasty ass bag of beer in front of my old lady neighbor's door. My husband and I asked her to take out her trash because it was disgusting and beer was getting everywhere. She gave us attitude stating it wasn't her trash and she refused to take it out. We were in a rush so we just took off and when we returned, a building manager was washing the patio and taking the trash out.


That old lady moved out and we were excited, until we met the new neighbors. I swear there was like 6 of them and it was a one bedroom apartment! We called them the gypsies because every time we passed their apartments it smelled horribly! Like in using incense to cover up bad food and marijuana. They smoked all the time, which doesn't bother us, but because we were so close our apartment would sometimes smell like weed too. They were loud, annoying and they had a little boy (at least we think he was a little boy) who was never in school and always gave us the stink eye. He looked like a future hit man stuck in the body of an overweight 14 year old Armenian boy. Just plain creepy. They ended up blabbing about our precious Heisenberg and we had to move to a different apartment in the complex.

Now we are neighborless! Not necessarily we have people who live around us but we don't share walls with anyone, nobody next to us at all! BUT....we have Nathan. Nathan is a 5 year old little Asian boy who lives upstairs. He runs around like we don't live underneath him and is constantly coming to visit our puppy. Let me add we have a baby gate at the front door to avoid the dog running out and to keep Nathan from coming in. But his visits would last 20 minutes if we let it and he began throwing items into our apartment like rocks and balls. We now tell him after a few minutes to kindly get lost, but he doesn't really get it. The worst part is his parents just stand there allowing him to invade our privacy. However, on the rare occasion we catch Heisenberg before he bolts to the door, Nathan gets pissed off at the dog and yells in his adorable 5 year old voice "WHATEVER!"

All in all we've had some easy neighbors, some difficult ones, and some stinky ones but we've been pretty lucky. No dicks or complainers or partiers. I'm most scared of purchasing a home. What if we have terrible neighbors? We're stuck! I guess all I can do is pray we get people like ourselves. No matter where you live, just remember to have consideration for the people around you and enjoy life in peace.
EMM