Are Married Men More Attractive?

Thinking back I've never been single as an adult. I reunited with my husband at 19 immediately after a long term relationship and we've been together ever since. Therefore I have no real experience with dating as an adult. I don't know the do's and don'ts and quite honestly I don't care to ever experience having to date again.

What is this leading to? Well, it's leading to the idea that single women are more attracted to married men. Are they? If so, why?  I asked some friends and they all said the same thing "Women who go after married men are skanks!" I was shocked! I mean, I don't disagree but I was trying to get to the real reason of it all. To my friends, the real reason doesn't matter, they're all skanks! I don't like that word, but in general I feel the same way. If any woman ever tried to go after my husband I would beat her ass to the ground after I beat his. To me, name calling wasn't the point. I wanted to know the psychological reasons as to why single women are more attracted to married men. I did some research but nothing official came up. In all fairness I didn't take this to journal searching or articles on the subject just a simple Google search but nothing I read made much sense or explained the reasons. It seemed like all Google could provide was basic information. So until I get enough interest on the subject I guess I will have to leave you with my own thoughts and reasons.

At first I thought it was because as women we want a man who can commit, provide and have the ability to love another person. A married man is a prime example of what women tend to want in a relationship. Married men are clearly able to provide all of those characteristics and then some. I also think that some single women get excited about the fact that it's an affair, it's secret, it's taboo and the thrill of getting caught is the best part. Either way, going after a married man is so inconsiderate and flat out degrading. If you are dating a married man the chances of him leaving his wife, and God forbid children, are slim to none. Should you actually get him to leave his wife or family, shame on you and also what's to stop him from doing it to you? It all goes back to women finding a "great" man and wanting or should I say hoping he will change for her. Being with a married man is nothing but drama, deceit and bad bad bad karma.

Part of me was hesitant to write about this topic. I don't like to judge people because it's their life, they're going to do what makes them happy regardless of what I say. But also because I personally know people who have done exactly this; both personally and in the media. Angelina Jolie went after Brad Pitt and he was married to Jennifer Aniston. Tell me, do we look at the Jolie-Pitt family and still think about Aniston's misery? No, we think they look happy and are finally getting married. But in the beginning, Angelina straight up stole Jennifer's husband. This was an extreme and of course we don't know the details of it all but we can assume that Angelina became Brad's mistress and look at their lives now. As for my personal friends/family, their lives were not ruined but definitely made more difficult. They certainly didn't get the fairy tale ending with a castle in France like Angelina but they learned. I don't judge them, I still love them but I can't say it was easy to over look their misdoings. The older I get the more I realized that everybody makes mistakes and it's important that we understand that. It's what that person who makes the mistake does after they realize what they have done. You can't grow unless you've made mistakes. This is not my way of excusing women who go after married men, but it is a way for me to express that while I don't agree with it doesn't mean those women aren't human either. All I can really say is I won't do it and I hope it never gets done to me.
EMM