Friend Zoned

I was watching Vsauce with my husband the other night. For those of you who've never heard of this it's a YouTube channel where a man named Michael discusses certain topics through a scientist perspective. So this particular episode he was discussing the idea of being "friend zoned" and how it actually is a good thing. Over the last 50 years people have created less friendships and spent less time with other human beings. Of course it's obvious that has to do with the development of the internet and how social media influences our interactions these days. Long story short, he thinks if you get friend zoned rather than ignore that person or force a relationship he thinks it's better to develop a friendship since we are lacking in that area altogether as a human race.

I thought that was so interesting! Scientific lingo aside I just think the idea of developing friendships is important. However the one question I thought about during the video was the common idea that men and women can't be platonic friends. This scenario means one person (in this case the person who became the "friend" rather than the "boy/girl friend") would have to not only subside their true feelings for their new friend but also learn to treat that person differently. Is it possible to come back from having emotional feelings for someone as just their friend?

OUCH!

Personally I don't think I could. I can only use my past self because, well I'm married. In the past I friend zoned a couple of guys. Bless their hearts they tried to be my friend but I think the crush always remained. A guy rarely friend zoned me because I didn't usually go after guys I didn't think I had a chance with (I guess that's my relationship survival mechanism haha). But when it did happen I stopped talking to him altogether. This is different from ex's becoming friends because I think you've had your chance and you both move on. If you don't move on, you typically don't remain friends, right? The video from Vsace is posted at the bottom of this blog. Watch it and let me know what you think. Either way it's an interesting watch and definitely made me think.

Vsauce Friend Zone