Oppo Zappo

Do opposites attract? Absolutely! A friend of mine was saying he likes women who are outgoing because he is very introverted. It got me thinking, do we specifically look for traits in our partner that we do not have?

I can only speak from experience. I did date my exact polar opposite. I was into academics, he was into partying. I was family oriented, he was not. I wanted a commitment he did not. The list goes on. It did not work, even in the slightest bit. This person drove me nuts! However, he did get me to try new things and experience the world in a way that I wouldn't have normally experienced it. I can't say it was always bad either because that relationship opened my eyes to his world.

Now my husband is another story. I feel like we're polar opposites in certain aspects of life. He's more outgoing than I am, I'm more religious than he is. He likes seafood, I don't. I'm closer to my family than he is with his. I love comedies, he's into horror. But when it comes down to life's core values, morals, goals, sex, how to raise our children, finances etc we are on the same page. It's a thin line of balancing opposing views and being with someone completely different than you and what you want. Our relationship makes for interesting discussions, weird arguments and passionate love.

Overall I think it's important that you find someone who can challenge you. I find that being with someone who is too similar to you can be convenient and at some points boring. Sure you have to work harder a the relationships but it's worth it in the end.
EMM