The Other Woman

I was watching that show "The Talk" and they had Rielle Hunter on the show. For all of you who don't know who she is, she's John Edward's mistress with whom he had a child with. I guess you could say she is this decade's Monica Lewinsky. However I will say Monica had more class, even with the sperm on her dress. On this specific interview they were asking her tough questions; in my opinion not tough enough. This woman had the balls to write a tell all book about her affair with the ex presidential candidate. In the book she goes into details about the affair, how they had sex the first night they met, all of the gory details American's want to hear. What baffled me is her "surprise" to the questions they were asking her. Things like, and I'm paraphrasing, "You're a grown ass woman, how did you get pregnant at 43 knowing about condoms, birth control, depo shots etc.?" She looked confused and said "I just didn't think I could get pregnant. All of my friends had children, but I didn't, so I didn't think it was possible." WHAT?! I'm sorry, she's in her 40's right? Not 15? Seriously the stupidest thing I've heard a grown woman say. Watching her interview pissed me off. I'm a real advocate for blaming the person in the relationship who cheated (in this case John Edwards) not the other woman/man. But in this case I have to say this woman was insensitive to the fact that John Edwards wife had cancer and was insensitive to the fact that he had children. This woman wrote a tell all book and yet is still conservative with her answers to these SHOCKING questions. I don't get women like that. Clearly she seeks attention and is trying to elongate her 15 minutes of fame into 20. I'm pissed I'm even writing about her to be honest.

Watching this made me think about all the "other" women out there. You know I guess part of me wants to say we as women should stick together and if there's a man who is married or taken, step away. The other part of me knows how manipulative men can be so some women genuinely don't know these men are taken. So to me, the most important person in this scenario is the man or woman who cheated. Unless there is an agreement between the couple, the person who cheated should absolutely be the one to blame.

True story time....I was in a toxic relationship for years on and off. I've written about this guy several times. He will remain nameless cause I don't need that drama back in my life. But he is the person who was my security blanket. He made me feel good about myself when I was most vulnerable so I continued to go back to him on a regular basis. Anyways, we were dating for awhile at one point when he moved out of state for work. Long story short he came to visit me and I saw a picture he had taken of a girl sitting on top of him topless (almost as if it were during sex ewww). I didn't say anything to him because it just confirmed what he had been doing all along. I found her number and kept it stashed away. After he left, I sent her a text and she immediately called me apologizing. She didn't even know he had a girlfriend! We both broke it off with him and are now distant friends.

This is what I mean about him being the only one to blame. He cheated, he lied, he was manipulative and he took advantage of both of us. She was an innocent bystander, well not so innocent I guess with that photo I saw ;) but innocent enough.

All of this being said, when the other woman has it out to purposely steal your husband, get knocked up or God forbid write a tell all book, she does have a hint of home wrecker in her. Considering how almost all women have been cheated on, we should really try to remember how it felt and avoid being the other woman. We all deserve to be THE woman to a very special man.
EMM