Your Ex's New Love

I've written a few posts in the past about ex's and the troubles that often comes with them. Today I want to write about the moving on process and what it takes to get there. For the most part, my ex's and I are relatively friendly. I only have one ex I choose to no longer speak to and that's because I felt as though he was a fairly toxic person in my life even after we stopped dating. The only other one I don't speak to is solely based on his choice. I'm not sure why we no longer speak, but I respect his decision and I don't lose any sleep over it. It was recently brought to my attention one of my ex's got married! I was so happy for him and excited that he found someone worthy of his love. I was talking to a girlfriend of mine about this specific topic and she said "I don't care how long it's been I would be upset if any of my ex's got married, even if I was married." I was a little bit surprised at that statement because I can honestly say I am happy for my ex's if they find someone to spend the rest of their lives with. It doesn't bother me one bit because we are ex's for a reason. That doesn't mean I never cared for them, but I am happy with my husband and I wish everyone could feel the love we share.

However, before I was married I would absolutely get jealous if an ex had a new girlfriend in his life. I would diminish our relationship and tear myself up wondering why he chose her over me. Looking back, I think that's fairly normal especially if you loved somebody. In my life I only ever loved one other man and while it was true love it was nothing compared to the love I have with my husband. While looking for pictures relating to this topic I saw a quote that absolutely describes how I feel about this topic specifically.

Doesn't this seem appropriate? It does for me. I dated most of my ex's in high school so the memories I have with them makes me nostalgic. I find now that it's not so much a person I miss but the memories.

I guess to me the only person who would have an impact on me if they got married would be my husband if we ever split. So I understand ex-wive's who get a little hurt by the idea, but as far as ex boyfriends I think it's important to find peace and security within yourself to be able to find happiness within your heart for them and their new love. When you can truly say you are happy for an ex finding true love, I assure you it will make you feel better about yourself. We should all just be happy for one another and let the rest roll off your shoulder.
EMM