Forgive & Forget

It's something people always say, "I can forgive you but I will never forget what you did". It's one of those statements that I thought related to cheating and cheating alone. After the year that I have been having I find that to be furthest from the truth. This statement can be used in many different aspects of my life now and as I've mentioned before, forgiving may not even be an option.

However for the sake of this blog let's say it relates to cheating significant others who get caught. Is it possible to forgive and forget? I don't think so! I think it's absolutely possible to forgive when it comes to matters of the heart. I also happen to think when it relates to someone near and dear to you it is also impossible to forget. I know for me personally I was cheated on several times (for the record, never by my husband) and I never forgot what that person did to me. The pain subsided, the memory faded but the fact that they hurt me as bad as they did was always in the back of my head. I wasn't perfect and in the past I've cheated as well. I can only imagine the boys I cheated on still remember what I did to them. Or maybe not, men tend to be forgetful and hold less of a grudge but that doesn't make it any less hurtful.

That brings up another topic altogether; is it easier for men to forgive and forget than it is for women? I personally think it is easier for men. As previously stated men tend to move on quickly, forgive quickly and forget quickly. Women on the other hand want to know all the details of what happened, when, where, how, with who, how long, how many times, is she better, blah blah blah. We are so sick ladies! But it's the truth is it not? Don't we as women want to know the details even though we know it will hurt? I think it's because we don't want to be surprised with any other information that may come up in the future. Anyways, I digress; women do take cheating personally and therefore we will NEVER forget.

I don't know maybe I'm the only crazy woman out there that doesn't forget but I doubt it. I think it is honorable to be able to do so and I envy you but I'm not that progressive. I applaud you people out there who are able to forgive and forget because it is easier said than done.
EMM