To have them or not to have them, that is the question. All I have to say is it really depends on the couple. Some are totally fine with a guys weekend in Vegas. Others are extremely conservative and prefer not to celebrate the man/woman's last night as a single person. Of course what man DOESN'T want a bachelor party? However guys, with movies like The Hangover 1 & 2, Bachelor Party and Clerks 2 how do you expect your fiancés to feel totally comfortable with the idea? Believe me, I hate double standards because they always seem to fall against women but in this case bachelorette parties are way different than bachelor parties. Let me further explain. A female bachelorette party might include a sex toy education class, dancing with your girls at a club, getting a little drunk and enjoying getting free shit because you're wearing ridiculous boas and veils all over the town. Sure there may be a male stripper but I guarantee it's not the same experience as a female stripper.
I can use my own bachelorette party as the perfect example. I was bombarded with a male stripper at my wedding shower...by my mother! I thought it was going to be 30+ of my closest family and friends celebrating my love for my husband. I should have known something was going to happen when my grandmother suddenly left at 9pm. About 10 minutes later I was greeted with Cesar in his nasty ass brown fur coat and bright red thong. I freaked out! I was uncomfortable and clearly not enjoying the experience. This wasn't to say my entire party wasn't enjoying him. I've seen women I know my whole life get greased up by this guito, getting picked up, taking shots off his chest etc. But men, by midnight, he left home richer and all the women went home to their husbands. It really was innocent. For some reason I think most women have this idea in their head that when men have a bachelor party, most men will cheat. Quite frankly, at least for me, I don’t think a man’s buddies are really taking me into consideration when egging on behavior that could hurt the relationship. Of course there are plenty of bachelor parties that are innocent enough they just seem few and far between these days.
EMM
A lot of people have the mentality that "It doesn't matter who pumps up the tires, it is who rides the bike that important." Well, I beg to differ. I am not sure where this "get a stripper" idea came from, but I think it is disrespectful to the other spouse. Does one really want to enter into a marriage wondering if the other person had inappropriate sexual contact right before the wedding, or at any other time for that matter?
ReplyDeleteCall me old-fashioned, but I respect my husband too much to put him through that. I don't put myself into a position of question out of my deep love and respect for him. What is the point in making him ever wonder? I take pride in the fact that we have an honest, open, positive relationship.
All I know is I want my husband thinking about me when we are intimate... not closing his eyes and picturing the stripper that "got away" at the bachelor party.
JJ