When I got married, it was a huge deal. I don’t’ mean in the sense of everyone making it a big deal because they’re happy for me. I mean it was that type when everyone was questioning me because I was so young. *Side note, I was 21 when I got married not like 16 or anything like that* Back to my thoughts…When I told everyone they pretty much all questioned the relationship. “It’s too soon” “you’re so young” “just wait” is mostly what I heard instead of “Congratulations!” I knew my family wouldn’t support the idea but eventually, when they realized I wasn’t messing around, they all started to support my relationship.
It was so hard to justify to them why we were getting married so young, even though my parents got married at 19 and 22 and have been married for 30 years now. That being said, I took this marriage very seriously. If you know me at all, I’m not a thrill seeker and I think things through. I’m not one to jump into things and this situation was no different. I knew people (even family members) probably thought this marriage wouldn’t last. But I also knew it would.
Divorce to me is something people use as a way out far too often. I’m one of those hardcore believers that the only reason to get a divorce is if you or your children are being abused in ANY way. Keeping you and your family safe is a number 1 priority. However, I don’t believe in divorce for much else. I have friends and family members who are divorced. I’m not judging them, it’s their life. I fully support all of their decisions, but I personally wouldn’t have divorced for the issues they did. I know my partner in life is going to work through any and everything with me. I completely understand that people are put in situations where they feel the need to divorce, but to me marriage is a choice you made. You decided to be with that person for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. I see people getting divorced after 1-2 years married. What the hell is that? Did things change so suddenly in those 2 years? There’s going to be ups and downs in every marriage, but leaving isn’t the way out, in my opinion. I’ve heard “He/she changed, it’s different” People change, so you evolve as a couple. People always ask “what if he cheats?” and I usually don’t respond because I know my husband will not cheat on me. Never say never though right. If he does, we’ll work through it. “What if there’s a love child?” We’ll work through it. “What if he gambles al your money away?” We’ll work through it “What if he finds a younger piece of ass” Well then I don’t really have a choice do I? The only way my husband and I will ever separate is through death or if he decides to leave. I have enough faith in my marriage to know death will be what parts us.
EMM
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