In all seriousness I fully understand the concept of strip clubs and their appeal to men. Why wouldn't a man go to a strip club and watch semi-beautiful women dance naked on top of them? That is, for single men. I don't agree with a married man, especially my married man, getting his kicks at the local strip club just because his friends are going. I think it's a little disrespectful and since I know he's gettin' the goods at home what's the point? Don't get me wrong, it's not like my hubby's going or even asking to go, but it has been a topic of conversation in the past. Specifically one day in 2009. My husband was in the Navy for about 6 years and during a deployment they ported in Thailand. After working 12 hours/7 days a week for months, he clearly needed a night out with his friends. He mentioned they wanted to go to a strip club. Of course I'm a little worried....he's thousands of miles away, sex-less for 5 months now, and going to a strip club in a foreign country. But I trust my husband and I knew he wouldn't do anything wrong (I was still VERY worried). He called me later the next day only to express his anger about the "lady-boys" known in Thailand. Apparently, most strip clubs out there are of men dressed as women stripping. His experience was very upsetting...to him. Needless to say since that day he's never had the desire to go. After asking this questions to many others, I found that it really depends on the woman you ask. Some were open to their significant others going, others thought it was acceptable only for bachelor parties, and some thought it was immoral and disgusting. So while I'm not happy with the idea of my husband going to a strip club on a random Wednesday night, I might feel different about special occasions.
EMM
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ReplyDeleteI believe in live and let live... and I try not to ever judge. One will never know what these young ladies have been through and what the motivation is to work there. Mind you, the money is incredible, yet having to deal with some of the disrespect is a high price to pay.
ReplyDeleteI, however, have a really negative experience. My first husband and I had several fights about his attendance at strip clubs. I am not a hater by any means, but when the girls would end up at my house after closing (2 am) and I had a brand new baby and had to work the next day... that is just wrong. I felt completely disrespected and angry about the fact they were there.
My ex-husband even had the nerve to have one overnight at our home when I was on vacation. Not good...
Needless to say, we did have other issues, yet I feel that if a couple needs external eye candy to feel good about themselves, they need to focus on their relationship and figure out the issues instead of escaping.
Just sayin'!
Janice
Wow, I can't believe you went through that. I don't blame you for leaving. If it gets to a point where someone has to escape from the relationship then you're right...there's a deeper issue. I'm glad you've found someone worthy of your grace.
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